10 Things Men Desire From Their Spouse Apart From Sex
It’s no longer news that sex is very important to men. Majority of them even admit that among the list of things they want in a marriage, sex takes the number 1 place. Although, some men have other desires apart
from Sexual and emotional needs.
Most men find it difficult to ask their wives for what they desire, but many of them have some feelings and thoughts that they keep to themselves. For instance, some men feel a sense of obligation to provide for their wives financially, even if she earns more than he does or they both agreed on contributing equally to cater for the home. This scenario creates a form of pressure that somehow affects the relationship.
1. Affection
Although most men love the act of sex, some just want to be showered with more affection. Whether it’s massaging his feet or shoulders, holding hands with him in public, or leaving a love note on his cell phone – just showing that you care for him through spontaneous gestures of affection will sweeten his heart.
Try out different ways to show to him how much you care by being warm. Try Stuffs like; telling him when something goes wrong, cheering him up when he is in doubt and telling him how much you love and care about him. Go ahead and kiss him unexpectedly or flirt with him sometimes. Experiment with romantic and emotional affection to see what works better for him.
2. Belief in his Abilities
The majority of men believe that they have to protect and cater for their loved ones. Let your spouse know that you strongly believe in his skills and talents and that you are supportive of him. Your encouragement is most significant to him of amongst others.
One of the best things you can do is to make your man feel like a man and not a boy. Give him a little control (as long as you are comfortable). For instance, you could allow him to order for you the next time you both are out on a date. Such little gestures help build trust between you both and give him a sense of responsibility in the relationship.
3. Understanding
Men like’s to know that you ‘get’ them. They love to solve problems and they are often more logical. This creates a balance between the women who connect with their feelings and are generally emotional.
There are ways you two can show you will understand each other and one of them is creating time to talk daily. Plan a dialogue routine where you take at least 10 minutes daily to ask each other positive questions. This could include questions like; your favourite date together, your husband’s personal quality, what attracts you both to one another.
4. Affirmation and Appreciation
Appreciate and compliment him, most men love being patted on their back. Don’t over-do it, but ensure it’s sporadic throughout the week and make sure it’s genuine.
Do simple stuff like:
Telling him how lovely he looks in a particular shirt, Let him know that you appreciate his hardwork, kiss your spouse and tell him you admire him as a person. Thank your man for how well he takes care of the family.
5. Acceptance
Everyone loves to be accepted for who they are and don’t want to be changed by others. Men particularly often feel angered and hurt when their wives try to change them. If it concerns their health and safety, it’s understandable, but it’s not necessary to bring up superficial attributes.
You can let your spouse know how well you accept him for who he is by letting things slide when it comes to different activities, politics or opinions. Committing to agree to disagree in arguments Getting comfortable with being different from our spouse. Knowing his flaws and loving him regardless.
6. Less chatter
If your husband is, feeling tired, busy or generally isn’t up for a chat, don’t push it. Many times, women love to chat, so it’s important to create that time. Try expressing yourself in different ways to other friends, family members, or through alternative means like journaling, art and other forums online.
Don’t get this point wrong, communication is key, and nobody wants a relationship where you don’t talk. So when you really need to get intimate and talk, check in with him to see whether he’s up for it. But if he isn’t, you may need to carve out some other time for you both to get back on track.
7. Respect
Creating a loving and memorable starts with respect. One of the best ways you can show your man you respect and love him is by giving him listening ears when he speaks and not interrupting him.
You can also show respect by:
Being considerate of his upcoming plans. Avoiding the use of ‘eye roll’ when you’re in an argument with him. Not to make any negative comments about his opinions and thoughts. Generally being positive and thankful and also considerate of his needs and wants.
8. A little Free time
Everyone sensible person craves a little quiet alone time, and a moment to recoup, to reconnect with themselves.
When your spouse returns home from work, you can give him some space to unwind without any chatter or questions. Be mindful of his schedule, If you really need to spend quality time your husband, try making plans together or with his concert.
9. Trust
This is one of the keys to successful marriage life. Couples could build trust by being honest with one another, learning how to fight square and fair, as well as communicating often.
If you’re having any doubts about your spouse and you seem to find it hard trusting him, seek counsel and try not to get engaged in activities like spying or infidelity.
10. Companionship
You can hopefully say that your husband is your friend, not just your lover. Staying as companions and friends for years mean that you need to figure out ways of spending quality times together and having new great experiences.
Being married to your best friend requires you being really mindful of how you talk to each other, not taking him for granted and making little sacrifices to please each other. Practice the use of kind words, opt to watch his favourite sports game and play video games with him sometimes.
Do you think a man needs other things in a relationship apart from the above mentioned other things do you think? If yes, then tell us using the comment section below.
